less judging, more loving


We live in such a judgmental world, don’t we?

We criticize each other’s parenting skills. We snicker at physical appearances. We whisper to each other about our neighbor’s lifestyles, the cars they drive, the size of their homes. We form opinions of people based on the foods that they eat or the clothes that they wear before we even take the time to learn their names. 

We are all guilty of it.

And, quite frankly, I’m over it.


This feeling of constant judgement and lack of authenticity in my immediate community had been weighing on me for quite some time and it was SO refreshing to sit in church a few Sundays ago and listen to our pastor talk about loving thy neighbor. How important it is to love each other instead of breaking each other down. How we shouldn’t concern ourselves with the “non-essentials”.

He spent a lot of time breaking down Romans 14 and, for me, it was so timely and exactly what I needed to hear. I love when that happens. 

A few weeks ago, my cousin asked me who I thought my best friend on the island was. I didn’t have an answer for her right away, and the question has stayed with me since. Because besides the given of my family, I really don’t know who my best friend would be. Honestly, I don’t feel like I have many real friends here. Sure, we have acquaintances and a handful of people that we enjoy spending time with. But I would say that in a majority of those circles, I feel judged. Or I feel like we spend too much time judging others. 

I’m craving authenticity and trustworthiness. I’m itching for love and acceptance. I’m yearning for a community that is real. I’m actively trying to spend less time judging and more time loving. I’m ready to surround myself and my family with people who I know are like-minded and who are trying to love us more than they are trying to judge us. 

The purpose of this post isn’t any one person, or group of people down. I know that I don’t have any sort of authority over anybody and don’t pretend like I do. I’m a sinner just like everyone else. It’s simply a topic that has been weighing heavily on my heart lately so I felt the need to post about it. A sort of call-to-action to myself.

Now the world knows that I am committed to judging less and loving more. And what a beautiful world it is. 



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  1. Ahh, I love this so much! This is something I’ve been working on in my own life, too, so it’s refreshing to see others doing the same. It’s important that we love like Christ because we might be the only Jesus some people see (cliche, I know, but it’s also so true!). Thanks for the reminder! 🙂

  2. Your expression of interest and enthusiasm for living with a full awareness of our behaviors is an igniter Building a camp that is open and promoting of all to join in will be the setting for many a satisfying campfire

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