the byrds are staying put

Wow. What a weekend. 

If you follow me on Instagram or Facebook, you may have seen my announcement that we were moving to Utah. 

Well, you can disregard that post.

Here’s what happened:

Alex had been job shopping for a while and all of a sudden we were flooded with offers. It was exciting, overwhelming and a little bit scary. We prayed for clear minds as we weighed our options. We spent time researching the prospective cities. We looked at homes, schools and recreation activities. We prepared ourselves as best we could. 

At the end of last week, the pressure got to us and we made a decision. We were going to move to Utah. The cities we looked at seem great on paper – a perfect place to raise a family. The cost of living is cheap and the terrain is beautiful. Alex would start in two weeks.We were excited. Kind of. 

Then Saturday came. We started calling real estate agencies in Utah to find a home. We got price quotes for the shipment of our truck and household goods. Alex and I went to “our” beach to say ‘goodbye’ follow by lunch at our favorite restaurant.

And people, I could not keep it together. I was having major commitment issues. Even though there were lots of positives about the move on paper, I didn’t feel like they were our positives. Luckily, Alex and I are [almost] always on the same page. 

We spent the rest of the afternoon looking at places here and crunching numbers. We did some serious soul-searching. It was stressful. Ohhhh so stressful. We were feeling like we were making the wrong choice and were worried it was too late to back out. 

Alex talked to his career manager, the same one that he had already turned in his two week notice to just the day before, and found out that they were happy to put the breaks on his discharge paperwork. 


Even though it was unbelievably stressful, I’m glad it happened the way it did. It was humbling, and the whole experience put things into perspective. We had to re-evaluate is most important to us and what is best for our family. Big life decisions get so much harder to make when you have a little one to consider. 

Without a doubt, we will come face to face with more decisions like this in the future.Next time, I will hopefully know the right questions to ask, and will be more prepared for the emotions that come with these types of decisions. 

But, for now, these Byrds are staying put in Hawaii. And we couldn’t be happier. 

byrds staying in hawaii



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